A Theology of Dating(연애 신학)(영문판)

The Partial Shadow of Marriage

Ryul J. Kwon 지음

샘솟는기쁨 2022년 06월 24일 출간 종이책 : 2022년 02월 24일 출간

작품소개

책소개

★The Bible is the best textbook on dating, and THIS is the best dating book!
★An insight into love found in an old love letter!
★The great & little mystery of dreaming of the kingdom of God

★최고의 연애 교과서는 성경, 최고의 연애 교재는 바로 이 책!
★오래 전 러브레터에서 발견한 사랑의 통찰!
★하나님 나라를 꿈꾸는 큰 비밀 & 작은 비밀

The author has established A Theology of Dating with insights from his old and peculiar love letter. This book deals with how to start a relationship, the will and emotions of love, sexual desire and physical contact, and the attitude of parting, containing rich examples of ministry fields that he guides young people. Dating and marriage have continuity and discontinuity. Marriage is called a “great mystery,” and dating is a “little mystery.” He conveys the guidelines for dating and the principles of the life of faith at the same time.
In addition, the author emphasizes that the criteria for choosing a mate should be each other’s mission. In particular, what sustains the marriage is the covenant itself rather than the love of a married couple, and lasting love must be supplied in Christ. He says the Love Chapter is the sum total of all love in the world and the supremacy of love that humans can recognize. Defining love as an operation of the will accompanied by emotion, he biblically deals with true love and dating, marriage and family, childbirth and nurture, etc.

저자는 오래 전 유별난 연애편지에서 얻은 인사이트로 ‘연애 신학’을 정립했다. 이 책은 연애를 시작하는 방법, 사랑의 의지와 감정, 성욕과 스킨십, 헤어짐의 자세 등을 다루며, 청년들을 지도하는 사역 현장의 풍성한 사례들을 담고 있다. 연애와 결혼은 연속성과 불연속성을 지니는데, 결혼을 ‘큰 비밀’, 연애를 ‘작은 비밀’이라고 일컬으며, 연애 지침과 신앙생활의 원리를 동시에 전한다.
또한 저자는 짝을 선택하는 기준이 서로의 사명이어야 한다고 강조한다. 특히 결혼생활을 지탱하는 것은 부부의 사랑보다 언약 자체이며, 지속적인 사랑은 그리스도 안에서 공급받아야 한다고 말한다. ‘사랑 장’의 진술은 세상의 모든 사랑의 총화이자 인간이 인식할 수 있는 사랑의 지고(supremacy)이며, 서로 사랑한다면 그 가르침대로 하나님 나라를 믿고 바라야 한다고 역설한다. ‘사랑은 감정을 수반하는 의지의 작용’이라고 정의하면서, 진정한 사랑과 연애, 결혼과 가정, 출산과 양육 등을 성경적으로 다룬다.

목차

Foreword _005

Prologue _012

Chapter 1. The Basis For A Theology of Dating _017

A Peculiar Love Letter
A View of Dating Impracticable?
No Difference in Dating Standards
Two Perspectives on Dating and Marriage
A Theology of Dating and A Theology of Marriage
Dating for God’s Glory
The Couple in the Same Direction!
Everyday Life’s Direction
Marriage Is a Great Mystery
Dating Is a Little Mystery
| Questions for Sharing and Application |

Chapter 2. Existential Love and Conceptual Love _049

How Can We Define Love? (1)
How Can We Define Love? (2)
Is Love an Emotion?
Is Love a Will?
Love, the Will Accompanied by Emotion
Dating Like Artificial Flowers
This Is What Sustains Love!
| Questions for Sharing and Application |

Chapter 3. Biblical Principles for Dating _075

The Reality of the “Same Direction”
How Do I Build My Will? (1)
How Do I Build My Will? (2)
A Dating Story Related to Mission
Is It Appointed? Is It My Choice? (1)
Is It Appointed? Is It My Choice? (2)
| Questions for Sharing and Application |

Chapter 4. Loving God & Loving Mate _103

Convergence of Love
The Convergence of Sin and The Triangle of Love
It’s Not a Division-Allotment Concept!
Do Love God Much More!
| Questions for Sharing and Application |

Chapter 5. Physical Contact and Symptoms of Love _121

Keep the Purity Before Marriage!
Appropriate Level of Physical Contact (1)
Appropriate Level of Physical Contact (2)
“You Trust Me, Right?”
True Symptoms of Love
Sexual Desire and Spiritual Desire
| Questions for Sharing and Application |

Chapter 6. Church Reality and Actual Dating _153

Difficult Reality to Find a Mate
Dating Issue with Non-Christians
Let’s Lower Our Standards a Bit!
The Roles of Men and Women in Dating
Community-Oriented Dating
Don’t Be Afraid to Break Up!
Summary and Advice on Dating
| Questions for Sharing and Application |

Chapter 7. Marriage and Married Life _185

Correcting the Concept of First Love
Three Principles of Covenant Marriage
Marriage Is Based on God!
Covenant

작가정보

저자(글) Ryul J. Kwon

저자 : Ryul J. Kwon
Ryul Jonathan Kwon (권율)
(Pastor, wounded healer, lecturer)

The author has completed the Department of English Language and Literature (B.A.) at Kyungpook National University and the Master of Divinity (M.Div.) at Korea Theological Seminary. He has experience working on campus as a staff of SFC (Student for Christ), and he frequently serves young adult union retreats, dating courses, and pre-marriage courses.
He is an author devoted to preaching and writing about life’s hardships and pains. He was born into a non-Christian family but experienced his life “reformed” with the gospel in difficult circumstances such as domestic violence and parental divorce.
From an early age, he was interested in the Bible and doctrine, even during dating. His belief that the best textbook for dating is the Bible led to the publication of A Theology of Dating: The Partial Shadow of Marriage.
Currently serving as a cooperative pastor of Purunsup Church in Gimhae and Saegyaero Hospital in Busan, the whole family lives a missionary life. He has also been working as a lecturer at seminaries in the mission fields (Mongolia, Philippines) for six years. He constantly communicates with readers through his blog and Facebook. He has even real meetings with those who have broken hearts and pains.
He is also engaged in writing, presently having five books and four translations.

권율
(목사, 상처입은 치유자, 교수 선교사)

저자는 경북대학교 영어영문학과(B.A.)와 고려신학대학원 목회학 석사(M.Div.)를 마치고, 평소에 청년들을 위한 사역에 힘쓰고 있다. SFC(학생신앙운동) 간사로 캠퍼스 사역을 한 경험으로 청년연합수련회, 연애학교, 결혼예비학교 등을 자주 섬기기도 한다.
또한 인생의 고난과 아픔을 소재로 설교와 글쓰기에 힘쓰는 저자이다. 비신자 가정에서 태어나 가정폭력 및 부모이혼 등의 어려운 환경에서 복음으로 인생이 ‘개혁’되는 체험을 했다.
어릴 적부터 성경과 교리에 관심이 컸는데 심지어 연애하는 중에도 그 불이 꺼지지 않았다. 연애에 있어 최고의 교과서가 성경이라는 그의 신념은 결국 『연애 신학』의 출간으로 이어졌다.
현재 김해 푸른숲교회와 부산 세계로병원의 협동목사로 섬기면서 가족 전체가 선교적 삶을 살고 있다. 그리고 6년째 선교지(몽골, 필리핀) 신학교 강사로 섬기고 있다. 평소에 블로그와 페이스북을 통해 독자들과 끊임없이 소통하며, 마음의 상처와 아픔이 있는 독자들과는 실제 만남을 가지기도 한다.
저서는 『올인원 사도신경』, 『연애 신학』 외 3권이 있고, 역서는 『원문을 그대로 번역한 웨스트민스터 소교리문답(영한대조)』 외 3권